Letting Go & Trusting Allah’s Plan

You begged, you cried, you raised your hands in the depths of the night, whispering through the tears, “Ya Allah, take these feelings away from me.” But they remain. The thoughts, the emotions, the weight of it all—it lingers, settling deep in your heart, refusing to fade. And so, you begin to wonder: Why? Why is Allah not removing this attachment even when you have asked Him again, again, and again?

Maybe the answer isn’t in the removal of the feeling but in what the feeling is meant to teach you. Love, longing, attachment—these are part of human nature. But when those emotions begin to consume you, when they start pulling you away from Allah rather than towards Him, then it is when the test begins. And Allah says in the Qur’an:

“Do people think that they will be left to say, ‘We believe,’ and they will not be tested?” (Qur’an 29:2)

Your attachment is not a punishment; it’s a mirror reflecting your own heart. It’s a weight pressing on your soul, forcing you to look deeper. Maybe, just maybe, these feelings are not meant to break you but to build you—to detach you from creation and attach you to the Creator.

The Fire & The Child

Imagine a child who sees fire, mesmerized by its glow, drawn towards its warmth. The child reaches out, wanting to touch it, to feel its beauty. But the parent, knowing the pain it will cause, pulls the child away. The child cries, protests, even thinks, Why are you stopping me? But the parent does not let go—not because they want to hurt the child, but because they love them.

And this is how Allah protects you. You think this person is good for you. You feel like your heart cannot bear to let them go. But Allah, in His infinite wisdom, sees what you cannot. He knows that what you are running toward might harm you in ways you do not yet understand. And Allah says:

“It may be that you dislike a thing and it is good for you, and it may be that you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (Qur’an 2:216)

If this person was truly meant for you, nothing in the world could take them away. But if they were removed, then—just like the parent pulling the child away from fire—Allah has pulled you away for your own protection. The child may cry in the moment, not realizing what they have been saved from. And you too may cry now. But one day, you will look back and understand: Allah was protecting me all along.

Pain as a Path to Purification

There are attachments in our lives that are rooted in places we don’t even realize—places where our nafs still holds control. And so, Allah tests us. Not because He wants us to suffer, but because He wants us to be purified. The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Nothing befalls a believer—a thorn or more—but that Allah will raise him one degree in status thereby or remove a sin thereby.” (Sahih Muslim)

Maybe this heartbreak is your path to forgiveness. Maybe the very pain you are asking Allah to remove is the thing that is bringing you closer to Him. Because every time you cry to Him, every time you lower your head to the ground in sujood and whisper, Ya Allah, help me, you are drawing nearer to the One who never leaves.

Let Go & Trust Allah

We chase people, believing that they will complete us. We attach our happiness to their presence, forgetting that hearts are not held in our hands but in the hands of Allah. If Allah removed someone from your life, it was not without reason. If He allowed this pain to remain, it is because there is something in it that your soul still needs to learn. Perhaps this pain is not a punishment, but a mercy in disguise. Perhaps your heart is breaking because Allah wants to rebuild it—stronger, purer, and more attached to Him than to anyone else.

What Should You Do Now?

You don’t need to suppress your emotions, nor do you need to drown in them. Instead, redirect them. When your heart feels heavy with pain, turn that pain into du’a—not a du’a that begs for their return, but a du’a that pleads for peace:

“Ya Allah, if this person is written for me, ease the path toward them in a way that pleases You. And if they are not, remove them from my heart in a way that brings me closer to You.”

Let go—not because your heart is weak, but because you trust that what Allah has planned for you is far greater than what you are holding on to. Your pain has a purpose. Your attachment has a lesson. And your heart is in the hands of the Most Merciful.

So breathe. Let go. And trust that one day, you will look back and understand why this was written for you.